The biggest advantage I’ve observed since my autism assessment has been that when people say things to me that used to make that voice in my head say:

[Gast]

The biggest advantage I’ve observed since my autism assessment has been that when people say things to me that used to make that voice in my head say:

“What’s wrong with me…”

Now I have skills that sometimes kick in instead, that let my brain puzzle out whatever the glitch in my matrix is and self-advocate (or exit the convo).

I’m still ruminating about it now, hours later — but I’ll take this over the “what’s wrong with me” voice, any day of the week.

#AuDHD #ActuallyAutistic

[Gast]

@saralobkovich It took me much longer to get to the same place because I needed to work on my internalised ableism but once I did that, it became easier: I stopped affirming external ableism with internal ableism, which helped me differentiate between another’s perspective and my lived reality. Nervous system regulation helps. “Are their comments in good faith?” is the first thing I think now, and if not, then it’s their issue, and not mine. Helped save lots of spoons.

[monkee@chaos.social]

@silverhuang @saralobkovich Thank you all for sharing